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The Living…after the death of a loved one

Posted on by The TríB Online in Death, Family, Happiness, Life, Manifesting, Pandemic, Sadness, The Live TríB

Death….I’ve always heard there is one absolute that we all must face one day and that absolute is Death. And for most of us, we will be affected by it’s unbearable grip at some point in our lives. Having lost both parents before I made the age of 30, death has definitely had it’s awful grips of almost unbearable grief on me…more than I would have liked. But, it’s a reality. A dark reality that the “Living” must face after the death of a loved one. With a global pandemic hovering over us, death has affected so many people from all walks of life. Here are a few things that people don’t tell you about death. And it’s not because they don’t want to tell you. The truth is, it’s heartbreaking to tell you.

No one wants their fellow man to experience the crushing feeling that death brings upon you. But for those of us who have had death grip our airways and buckle our knees with grief, we know that someday, most will understand that feeling, and it’s not something that we want to talk about. 

For starters, the emotions that come from the death of a loved one will catch you off guard. No matter how much you think you have prepared yourself, no matter the pep talks or the macho man or superwoman speeches you have rehearsed. IT WILL CATCH YOU OFF GUARD.

Secondly, the roller coaster of emotions known as grief never go away. The intensity of the grief subsides with time, but you will spend the rest of your life in some level of grief. Now, this isn’t to say that you will be sad and moping the rest of your life. The truth is, you will learn to live life with a void, with an absence….and grief will sneak up on you after a seemingly happy stint in life….just out of nowhere…and guess what? This is normal…

Third, it is not your fault. This one goes hand in hand with grief. One of the stages of grief is the guilt stage. No matter what you could have done differently, the outcome was meant for that day and the circumstances cannot be changed. Death is a reality and it’s not your fault – that is unless you have intentionally killed someone with ill intent. 

Number four – it’s ok to hurt for others who are experiencing the death of a loved one. It’s ok to be there for them. If anything, you can probably help them get thru their tough time…if you’re strong enough and in a place to do so. Only you know your journey to healing and how much you can expend emotionally. 

Number five – it is ok to cry. Let me repeat for ALL, EVERYONE, EACH LIVING HUMAN – it is OK to cry….some people may tell you that you need to be strong, yada, yada….screw that. Release your emotions….cry….and cry some more. It’s ok. No one gets an award for “holding in tears from heartaches”. You don’t get a winning lottery ticket…none of that. So, cry…let it out. It’s ok. Death is absolute yet unpredictable and that’s the “big scary” of it all.

And finally, number six, it is ok to smile and be happy after the death of a loved one. I’m sure if we could ask those that have passed away if they would want us all on the ground drowning in sorrow or smiling and living a seemingly happy life, most would probably choose the latter for their loved ones. It’s ok to “live” after experiencing a heart breaking death. Breathe…..live…..and remember those who have passed on before us – honor them and cherish the loved ones who are here…because unfortunately, death is lurking. 

Childhood Dreams….

Posted on by The TríB Online in Entrepreneurship, Life, Manifesting

Childhood Dreams….

Talking…talking has been my thing FOR….EV…ER….I used to only get in trouble at school for TALKING. Needless to say, when asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I always said: I want to be like Oprah Winfrey. I want to be a talkshow host. 🥴 Well, I didn’t even start on that path in college, I went in another direction that I do not regret, but I’m still a talker and I’ve always wanted to have my own show. Well, the time has come…..thru the upcoming popular platform known as: Clubhouse. I now have a club specifically for my hosted talk shows 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

Now, while I won’t be making Oprah Winfrey money or donning the 1980s Farrah Fawcett hair dos or clothes, I will be talking. I will be talking about any and everything and most definitely world events. There will be plenty of laughter (because I love to laugh) and there will be a range of other emotions. The one thing I can promise is a place for unique entertainment and a place where everyone’s voice is respected…regardless of differing beliefs. This has been a long time coming and is one of the many things that I have my hand in….The time is now….I still have more up my sleeve, but for now it’s time to get this “talking” on the track.

If you are on Clubhouse, follow me: @theonlytri

And come join the club: The Live TríB

First show will be April 28, 2021 (8-9 pm CST).

Topic: Trauma Bond between parents….but what about the kids?

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Humpday is gone…now what?

Posted on by The TríB Online in Entrepreneurship, Life, Tech

Kudos to us! We’ve passed midweek and we’re gearing up for the weekend! Yay us….semi jail sentenced US. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m 100% for social distancing, masks, and what not, but even me, the Aquarius who enjoys standing alone, is having Covid fatigue…Temper tantrums don’t work, by the way. I will neither confirm or deny that I’ve had one a time or two, just know, they do not work. We have to learn to live in our “new norm”. Gone are the days of blowing out the birthday candles on cakes…because yeah…who’s eating that in 2021? Gone are the days of mask being used for the absolute worst and in hospitals. So, before anyone else sulks – I’ve taken all the tickets for that, wait your turn – just know that we are in a prime time right now. (Stop cursing and swearing and hear me out).

Our OLD norm is long gone – far away – resting place created in 2019….we’re still grieving of course, BUT, since the old norm is gone, a NEW norm has to be created. *Grabs Bullhorn* – Inventors, on your mark, get set, GO! You may be thinking, “I haven’t created anything or I do not have a talent.” YES. YOU. DO! The thing is, you probably haven’t sat still long enough to truly think about your gift. Trust me, you have time. With these curfews, limitations, closings, and masks, OH MY – you have time…create the time, jot down what you are good at doing…if it’s something as simple as talking, yes talking, look into creating a podcast. My friend Dee, the woman behind the podcast: No Suga On Dee Rim, did just that (check out the podcast in TríB’s Favorites on the website: https://www.thetrib.online – this blog is on the website for those of you who don’t know). If you like to sew…uh, masks…not going anywhere anytime soon…get at it! If you want a website to jazz up your craft – build one! Or if you’re lost, I, Tanya Rochelle, can help you there!

There is so much opportunity right now til it’s almost insane. The playing field has leveled some for everyone. Tell the coach to let you in….the coach is your mind…think, manifest, and create. Humpday is gone, the weekend approaches, we’re in a pandemic….now what?