It’s been a while since I’ve written a post, but today is the day for an update…and today’s topic is growth and leaving the toxic ish behind. Since my last post, I have celebrated a birthday and had a plethora of other things that have happened throughout my life and career. Those who know me are aware and those who need to know, definitely know. But, there are some things and ideas that I hold near and dear to my heart. Some I should hold near and dear and some things I probably should not, but me and the therapist will discuss those topics :). Anyhow, back to the topic GROWTH. I can spend all day on this topic, because the truth is, there are several people who have grown in positive directions and some who have not, but instead, have falsified their lives to make others think they have grown in a positive direction. But, when looking at the layers for what they really are, they in turn, live in a nest of toxicity and have done so for years…the problem with that scenario is that it tends to spill out into other areas of that person’s life because it’s impossible to contain…the areas of that person’s life where the facade is being kept…into relationships with others, friendships, etc. Have you ever met someone with so much potential but he or she can’t get out of their own way because of the toxicity that they carry and allow to consume them? Yes, I have too…and they tend to dismantle or attempt to dismantle any and every one in their path…and if you’re not careful, he or she will have you in the same boat doing the same thing…being toxic…to your kids, to your parents, to friends, etc. As a whole, we have to do better. And no, that’s not hating or judging, that’s the truth. People want to use the phrases: “they are hating” or “they are judging” in situations where he or she has been faced with the truth. If you only want people in an “Amen Corner” for you, then your growth is stifled and will continue to be. If you think everyone is hating or judging you and your circumstance instead of providing you with much needed feedback, then you are stifling your growth as well. Growth is not meant to be comfortable. Think of when your feet are growing and your toe is at the end of the shoe…it’s uncomfortable. The same applies for growth in your life. It will be uncomfortable….but before you want to say people are hating or judging, listen to the message. And also notate what you’re actually defending…the blinders are real for a lot of us. In growing and definitely in having and raising a family and a career, one has to always think of the betterment of not just themselves but of everyone who shares life space with them. And I’ll jump off the soapbox with this piece of advise…if you so choose to continue a toxic life space instead of truly growing without fear, then that is your prerogative. But please, for the love of all things lovable, keep that toxic ish within your 4 walls…and stop introducing others to that space…it’s not the norm…it’s selfish to use your village constantly as a dumping ground for the toxicity when you will defend it to no end and remain toxic with justifications for it. Friends and family (for the most part) are there to listen and give advice and not judge….but it is not fair to them or anyone else to hear the same story for thirty or forty years and not get tired and worn out. They are weary….they are stifling their growth partly because of you —read that sentence again. We all have to do better and grow. And if you’re toxic and reading this, seek help. You’re wearing everyone thin….and they want to grow in power, grow in love, grow in respect, and grow in the likeness of Him.

It’s heavy but it’s real…..

So, this webpage has been live for a few days and there is quite a bit of traffic! Not sure if people are just reading the blog OR wanting to utilize the services that are offered by The TríB, but either way, I’m thankful for it all. Just to give a tad bit more insight into my journey and how God works with me, let me start by saying that I have been thru the fire with emotions and traumatic experiences (losing both parents before the age of 30). During these times, God was molding me. He is continuing to mold me now, but I had to go thru the fire in order to become the woman I am today. When I say “fire”, the meaning of that word is a deep, dark place of discovering who I am and acknowledging HIS power in my life and the influence of HIM within my life. I always considered myself to be a smart go-getter. Even more so now, more than ever. I have learned to be humble and continue to compete only with myself. I want to outdo the Tanya Rochelle from yesterday….that’s it. So, I keep my eye on my prize and not anyone else’s. And for that, I have been rewarded in this life’s journey. Some may say, how can you say you’ve been rewarded with such a background? I’ll tell you why, see, it is my understanding that my earthly parents were done with their job of molding me. God stepped in and has been my parent since those tragic days. And believe me when I say, there is no better being to go to in a time of need and understanding. He provides me answers constantly. Before my journey, I was in church every Sunday because that’s what I was told to do and my Mama demanded it. So, it was business as usual every Sunday. God had to step in and get my attention for me to have that true relationship with Him. And He did just that. So, this journey has been long, rough, tiresome, and hard, but I’m still here…still excelling, still mentoring, still coaching, still building websites, and still continuing to grow in my career and as a person. Because now, I have two littles that are looking up to me. And for that reason, I cannot fail 🙂