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Writing a paper with a word count requirement? Check this out!

Posted on by The TríB Online in Entrepreneurship

With my several years and counting of schooling, I have had to write my fair share of papers. While some have page number requirements (I’ll discuss this on another day), the most that I have written have a “word count” requirement. And, I have been told that I have a “gift” for writing papers almost to perfection. But, in my mind, it’s also a curse. Because, I can procrastinate until the very last day and then write a stellar paper. My anxiety goes thru the roof, but as of date, with doctoral papers even, it has not failed – knock on wood. I know, I know, I should not torture myself this way. But anyway, back to the topic at hand: the word count and how to achieve it. With me waiting until the due date to even attempt to write majority of my papers, let me share with you how you can achieve the word count – hopefully without feeling overwhelmed. Please Note: If you are not a procrastinator, like myself, please perform these steps in your process during a timeframe that makes you feel comfortable. The below steps are how I achieve my goals in writing papers.

Step 1: Once you have the topic, go to your school library (most are online), and start pulling articles related to the topic. You can do this by searching for sections of the title at a time or looking for synonymous words. Depending on the number of required references, always retrieve one more reference than the required number in case one of the references is a dud.

Step 2: Once you have your articles, read the abstract to determine if it may contain information you can use for your paper. If the abstract seems suspect, go to the conclusion of the paper and do the same (see if there is information in the conclusion that pertains to your topic). If you have a dud article, go back to step 1 and replace this article.

Step 3: Once you have solidified your article choice, read the requirements for the paper. Usually, the teacher/professor has outlined some key points that they want you to hit on. If so, those are your headers. (i.e. Teacher/Professor may state: Consider the below questions – What factors positively influence a person’s political stance? What factors negatively influence a person’s political stance? Are some of those factors similar for both sides?) Your headers: Intro, Positive Factors of Political Stance, Negative Factors of Political Stance, Political Stance: Positive and Negative Factors Compared, Conclusion.

Step 4: Now that you have your headers, take the entire word count requirement, take the number of sections and then divide. That’s right, DIVIDE. So, for the example used, you have 5 sections. Let’s say the word count is: 1725 – 2000. (I always divide by the lower number – lol). So, in my case, I would take: 1725 / 5 which equals 345.

Step 5: Now, you have broken down the sections and the word count. You know that you need a minimum of 345 words per each section. Take each section and write them as small discussion question responses. At the end, you can add in where needed for word count.

So now, you have a paper that you have written that is not so overwhelming – hopefully. Breaking it down into sections helps ease my mind and allows me to write stellar papers. Hopefully, this helps you too! 🙂

The Living…after the death of a loved one

Posted on by The TríB Online in Death, Family, Happiness, Life, Manifesting, Pandemic, Sadness, The Live TríB

Death….I’ve always heard there is one absolute that we all must face one day and that absolute is Death. And for most of us, we will be affected by it’s unbearable grip at some point in our lives. Having lost both parents before I made the age of 30, death has definitely had it’s awful grips of almost unbearable grief on me…more than I would have liked. But, it’s a reality. A dark reality that the “Living” must face after the death of a loved one. With a global pandemic hovering over us, death has affected so many people from all walks of life. Here are a few things that people don’t tell you about death. And it’s not because they don’t want to tell you. The truth is, it’s heartbreaking to tell you.

No one wants their fellow man to experience the crushing feeling that death brings upon you. But for those of us who have had death grip our airways and buckle our knees with grief, we know that someday, most will understand that feeling, and it’s not something that we want to talk about. 

For starters, the emotions that come from the death of a loved one will catch you off guard. No matter how much you think you have prepared yourself, no matter the pep talks or the macho man or superwoman speeches you have rehearsed. IT WILL CATCH YOU OFF GUARD.

Secondly, the roller coaster of emotions known as grief never go away. The intensity of the grief subsides with time, but you will spend the rest of your life in some level of grief. Now, this isn’t to say that you will be sad and moping the rest of your life. The truth is, you will learn to live life with a void, with an absence….and grief will sneak up on you after a seemingly happy stint in life….just out of nowhere…and guess what? This is normal…

Third, it is not your fault. This one goes hand in hand with grief. One of the stages of grief is the guilt stage. No matter what you could have done differently, the outcome was meant for that day and the circumstances cannot be changed. Death is a reality and it’s not your fault – that is unless you have intentionally killed someone with ill intent. 

Number four – it’s ok to hurt for others who are experiencing the death of a loved one. It’s ok to be there for them. If anything, you can probably help them get thru their tough time…if you’re strong enough and in a place to do so. Only you know your journey to healing and how much you can expend emotionally. 

Number five – it is ok to cry. Let me repeat for ALL, EVERYONE, EACH LIVING HUMAN – it is OK to cry….some people may tell you that you need to be strong, yada, yada….screw that. Release your emotions….cry….and cry some more. It’s ok. No one gets an award for “holding in tears from heartaches”. You don’t get a winning lottery ticket…none of that. So, cry…let it out. It’s ok. Death is absolute yet unpredictable and that’s the “big scary” of it all.

And finally, number six, it is ok to smile and be happy after the death of a loved one. I’m sure if we could ask those that have passed away if they would want us all on the ground drowning in sorrow or smiling and living a seemingly happy life, most would probably choose the latter for their loved ones. It’s ok to “live” after experiencing a heart breaking death. Breathe…..live…..and remember those who have passed on before us – honor them and cherish the loved ones who are here…because unfortunately, death is lurking. 

Jealousy….the green eyed monster….

Posted on by The TríB Online in Family, Life, Manifesting, The Live TríB

Jealousy….jealous…hate….the green eyed monster….where does it come from? I’ll tell you where…insecurities…mommy and/or daddy issues…socialization issues…the upbringing…and an unhealthy need to compare livelihoods. Whew! That’s a tongue twister, yet all so real.

I despise those who have jealous hearts. If one cannot be truly happy for their family and friends then are you really a friend or family worth being around? Half support is better than no support? Is that the angle? *sigh*….

I’m upfront with my thoughts, words, and deeds. AND I give people enough rope to hang themselves in my life if they choose to do so. So if I have ever bowed out, just know that I allowed too many passes AND it was way pass the time for me to go….and when I think back over those lost relationships, a lot of the issues tend to formulate around jealousy. People will be jealous because you can get your underwear whiter than theirs in the washer. It’s crazy the amount of minute things that people are coveting in your life. Sometimes it takes people years to shed the false face. Once you see the real face, believe it. We tend to give too many chances to people in our lives who don’t deserve one chance. People tend to cross you at the thought of getting some sort of benefit that would place them ahead of you in this game called life. It’s weird. But just to sum it all up, be wary of those who always switch circles. Be very wary of those who lose relationships left and right and be UBER AWARE of anyone who will lie and cry at the same time….LMBO!

Let me digress….jealousy….it’s a cold world to live in. Next up….Monday…where do I start?

Return to Work? I am at work.

Posted on by The TríB Online in Business, Entrepreneurship, Family, Life, Manifesting, Tech, The Live TríB

So as the world turns and as outside opens up for all to get their desired dose of “crowds”, there is this lingering order that is swirling around for several people…it’s the: “Return to work” or “Better Together” cheesy slogan that execs are attempting to use to bring their workforce back into the office. Well, for starters, you may want to start by acknowledging that the employees never left work, they have continued to keep the company afloat during a pandemic, so the “Return to Work” slogan may need to be retired. It comes off as a tad bit unappreciative to those workers who transitioned a portion of their homes into an “unfinanced” hub of your company. Kudos to those employees. Now the whole “Better Together”…*insert long drawn out sigh*….what year is this again? The Jetsons were well ahead of their time and even they got it! Me personally, I have seen much more of my coworkers while being at home than I ever did while in the office. Define “together”? If companies were having gatherings and everyone was sitting sitting around singing the latest kid bop jam and eating chips and salsa, then I obviously missed this and so did a heap of others. By together, possibly you mean that you need to see your workforce because seeing them gives you this “warm and fuzzy” of them being productive and working….*side eyeing my work BFF as we wonder how is this thought even possible telepathically*, or maybe together means if you can dictate their daily hours down to the second, then they have been good, stellar employees? No? Then define together for us please…we’re listening. Because honestly, I have seen so much productivity from people this past year than I have ever seen in all of my working years. People were comfortable and focused. They didn’t feel the pressures of the morning traffic, the pressures of leaving their house at 5:30 each morning to be at work at 8 a.m. and make it home at 7 or 8. Kid’s homework and dinner be damned. 

For those execs who are pushing to return to “normal”….newsflash, the old normal is actually “abnormal”. Times changed right before our eyes. For those who insist upon a full workforce, in house , 5 days a week, I can only imagine the quality of your recruiting for years to come. Companies are offering remote or hybrid or a combination of sort as a perk/benefit because they figured out for over a year, they didn’t miss a beat and actually gained more profit and more productive employees. For those who insist on seeing everyone and returning to the “archaic normal”…it’s ok to let go of the need to see people and equate it to success…please read that one more time. The pandemic forced you to do so (let go) and it probably wasn’t that bad. Growth…innovation, sustainability…..are all things that should be assessed when wanting to “return to work” or “return to normal” or whatever catchy phrase one is wanting to use. At the end of the day, do NOT be the company that loses headcount because you refuse to enter the year 2021. The time for meeting about meetings and meeting to hear each other breathe is over. You have to show up online with content or it’s the weird silence. Ahhhhhhhh….work….. Return? We’re here, where exactly are you? 

So I’m an Aquarius…

Posted on by The TríB Online in Business, Entrepreneurship, Family, Life, The Live TríB

So, I’m an Aquarius…water bearer…free flowing….LET US FLOW….When I was younger, I wasn’t into the zodiac as much as I am now. And, it’s a lil eerie how accurate the descriptions are at times. I also look at those I hold near and dear to me. I tend to have a lot of Virgo friends, Libras, Cancers, and Leo’s. There are a few others sprinkled here and there. But, for the most part, I’m an Aquarius to my core…just ask my Leo husband 😬 I’m saying all of that to say this, my patience is thin…at times. My children are forcing me to have more, but outside of them, I have a low tolerance for what I like to call: “foolery”. When I sense it, I tend to back away and go in another direction. There’s not too much that gets past me in regard to craziness, ill intentions, lies, manipulation, etc. So once I see it, hear it, sense it, I cannot undo it and my entire perception of a person can change in the blink of an eye. No matter who you are, once you fail the “sniff” test, your category with me changes. I despise excuses. People make conscious decisions to do whatever the hell he or she wants. So, I do not buy excuses at all. Sorry, it’s the world my mind lives in. But it’s also the world that makes the most sense….to me. Accountability exists in that world, honesty exists in that world. Morals exist in that world. Your word is your bond exists in that world. I do not make excuses for people who are harmful, manipulative, or liars and I secretly hate people who do. (I have friends who do this by the way and I literally just back away from them until I can tolerate them again). While I am not the epitome of perfection, I know some people who try to portray themselves as such…social media is the tool that allows people to put up fake lives and storylines. Someday, there will undoubtedly be a mental illness for that…until then, I just shake my head at those who do this…my biggest question is “Why”? I’m an Aquarius by the way. I just needed to say that during Gemini season…they do the most…and it seems to be the consensus. But they are not alone in their “doing the most” ways. Trust me…there are other people who are borderline psychotic, zodiac be damned. But in all seriousness…maintain peace, sanity, morals, light and for Pete’s sake stop posting fake lives for likes…most people already know the truth. Just own it and be free. Oh, did I mention that I am an Aquarius? Read about us…💄💋

The Business Mind

Posted on by The TríB Online in Business, Entrepreneurship, Life, Manifesting

*Deep Looooooooong Sigh* This topic has to come to the forefront. The Business Mind…everyone does not have it. And, that’s ok. BUT, one has to recognize when they do NOT have it and act accordingly, meaning, either, hire someone to be your business mind OR stay in your fruitful lane. Unfortunately, a lot of people get into the “Business Mind” lane and bring discord, misunderstanding, manipulation, and a whole other list of words that are not worth typing. Some people have a “go-getter” mindset that is often confused with the “business mind”. Being ambitious to fulfill your dreams does not mean you know how to conduct business. Those two are not the same. Let me repeat…those two are NOT the same.

Having a business mindset means that you can walk into a room and clearly state facts concerning an intended objective. You can then sit down an analyze all of the possible outcomes, scenarios, and facts surrounding that objective and conceptualize an intended outcome. That conceptualization is then brought to life via a prototype which should contain all that was requested. This prototype can then be tested by the person requesting the new feature, outcome, etc. This, in itself, this small paragraph distinguishes the “haves” from the “have nots” when it comes to the business mind. Those who do not have a business mind but are portraying to have a “business mind” are usually frustrated by this process and they may start playing the blame game when circumstances are not going in their favor. Unfortunately, many live among us…many.

So, how do we solve this issue? Because, whether we want to admit it or not, it is definitely an issue. For starters, people have to be honest with themselves with their abilities. We live in a society where people are trying to “fake it til you make it” to the point of foolishness. I am not a brain surgeon. I will not try to fake as if I am one. I am out of my league. Know your strengths, know your weaknesses, hire people to fill in the gaps where you are deficient. Or take classes….there are plenty that will walk you thru processes. But, you have to want to do better, you have to want to know more, you have to want to have some level of knowledge in an arena you want to enter. If not, own your failures. No one else can own them for you. No one else can fulfill your dreams of “business” for you. Know when you are winning and also know when you are losing. And when you are losing, strategize to get back on the winning side. Having a business mind is not impossible, but it takes skill….a skill that is not natural to everyone, and that is ok. If it does not come natural, then figure out how to educate yourself. That’s your job….not the world’s.

The First Step

Posted on by The TríB Online in Family, Life, The Live TríB

Soooooo, I did the first show on: The Live TríB last night! It was awesome!!!! There was some great convo surrounding: Trauma Bonds between parents…..but what about the kids? There were testimonials and an overall sentiment that this generation of parents HAVE to do better. Meaning, we as parents need to listen to our children and be more cognizant of their mental and emotional health, in addition to their physical health. Sometimes, parents think in simple terms of: food, clothing, and shelter as the only requirements in raising kids. This is simply not true. Kids need nurturing, kids need love, kids need to be respected as humans (ouch….our elders may cringe at this last blurb). But, it is true. I’m not saying that as parents, we are to allow our kids to run amuck and be disrespectful to everyone, BUT I am saying that they have voices, they are human, and they have opinions that we as parents SHOULD listen to and internalize. We have to do better by our children’s mental state so that they can navigate adulthood in, hopefully, a more positive light AND be around others who were also treated with respect and dignity in their childhood.

The show had me self-reflecting on my own parenting and what I can definitely work on with my own children. These conversations should happen more frequently until those that think that “ruling by fear and force” are ashamed to do so when it comes to kids. Let the kids be kids….let them play…let them roam free….give them space to thrive (not just physical space, they need mental and emotional space as well). I’m committed to bringing awareness to how we as adults treat kids as a whole. While kids who are abused physically carry scars externally and internally, there are a whole lot of kids who carry internal scars and because these scars are not seen externally, the kids are viewed as being “ok”. The truth is, they are not ok, and we as parents need to NOT be “ok” with this either.

There will be more shows with more topics and some will be as serious as this one and some will be for fun and laughter. I want to thank the people who joined me on this first step of a new journey. I was thoroughly impressed with the dialogue and had several people tell me how insightful the conversation was to them and that they are looking forward to the upcoming shows. The Live TríB is here…to stay…to enlighten…to inform…and to entertain. Be sure to check in with me on Clubhouse where you can listen in to the show. Also, check in with me on Instagram for updates. CH: @theonlytri, IG: @theonlytri, actual clubhouse: The Live TríB.

Until next time….

Childhood Dreams….

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Childhood Dreams….

Talking…talking has been my thing FOR….EV…ER….I used to only get in trouble at school for TALKING. Needless to say, when asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I always said: I want to be like Oprah Winfrey. I want to be a talkshow host. 🥴 Well, I didn’t even start on that path in college, I went in another direction that I do not regret, but I’m still a talker and I’ve always wanted to have my own show. Well, the time has come…..thru the upcoming popular platform known as: Clubhouse. I now have a club specifically for my hosted talk shows 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

Now, while I won’t be making Oprah Winfrey money or donning the 1980s Farrah Fawcett hair dos or clothes, I will be talking. I will be talking about any and everything and most definitely world events. There will be plenty of laughter (because I love to laugh) and there will be a range of other emotions. The one thing I can promise is a place for unique entertainment and a place where everyone’s voice is respected…regardless of differing beliefs. This has been a long time coming and is one of the many things that I have my hand in….The time is now….I still have more up my sleeve, but for now it’s time to get this “talking” on the track.

If you are on Clubhouse, follow me: @theonlytri

And come join the club: The Live TríB

First show will be April 28, 2021 (8-9 pm CST).

Topic: Trauma Bond between parents….but what about the kids?

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It’s Good Friday!

Posted on by The TríB Online in Life

So, it’s Good Friday, everyone is or should be getting excited to enjoy this weekend whether they are religious or not. Some people are off work and some are getting off early and some people will be off on Monday! Yards will be getting mowed (Please let mine be in that number.) Barbecues, Easter egg hunts, laughter, and good times! 

But honey, let’s talk about all the mishaps leading up to this illustrious weekend….the D.C. trial. I can’t even bring myself to write his name. But him, the knee choke murderer. Testimony has been truly sad and I refuse to watch the video evidence again. I can only hope justice is served once and for all. But, what if it is not? What if it’s the “same ole, same ole” when it comes to these trials where it appears the case should be open and shut? What if? Well, in a sad, emotionally detached way, I have come to expect the worst and hope for the best. Some people who will undoubtedly be singing their loudest hallelujahs of the year today thru Sunday,  are the same ones who are hoping this man and others like him are set free. The irony….the hypocrisy is always astounding.  And they sleep peacefully at night with a heart full of hate. I call them demon children, but that’s my analogy of how “it” exists…

As I lay here writing this post, listening to my boys laugh, fuss, kick, and play with each other, I can’t help but feel a bit of sorrow…George Floyd called for his mother….in his last breaths on this side of Heaven. My boys call me nonstop and whether it’s the 1000th time of asking for a popsicle or them calling me to tell me the other is spitting or hitting or calling me because they are not feeling well, I always come. I have always come. I will always come. To think they may call and I can’t come tears into my very core, my existence, my reason….it’s painful to even fathom. 

So as several will be chanting the “Hail Mary” prayer for intercession this weekend, George called his earthly mother as he was transitioning “home”. I will take this weekend to reflect on the true reason for the season and hug my boys a little tighter. Life is precious, time is short, evil is rampant…..and demon children exists, so steer clear. It’s Good Friday y’all! 

The Changing of the Seasons

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The Changing of the Seasons

It’s time y’all! (I’m from Mississippi, so y’all is very much appropriate.) Time to start packing away ALL of the winter wonderland clothes and other “stuff” we all bring down and bring forth during the winter season. It’s time to breathe in the fresh air, do some spring cleaning, and enjoy the sunshine. But hold up! Back to spring cleaning….while we traditionally think of “spring cleaning” as house and yard work, as an adult, I’ve found that we need to “spring clean” some of these friendships and relationships. People have always said, some people are in your life only for a season. The older I get, the more this rings true. People change….or shall I say, a person’s real character reveals itself after a while. It’s ok to love someone from a distance. Protect your peace. This goes for both friendships and relationships. A lot of times, when you’re in doubt or scared about letting go, evaluate that person’s other relationships (those you are privy to see). More than likely, they have changed with others as well OR they are switching up their nucleus of friends CONSTANTLY once he or she is found out. Be very cautious of the “serial befriender” (yes, that word is made up.) These people are looking for the “next best thing”, not true, meaningful friendships. They are plotting on you and others. And it’s ok to toss them out while spring cleaning. Relationships are the same….be mindful of your space and your peace at all times. Keep positivity in your circle and the ability to walk away from toxic situations as one of your weapons of peace.  We’re here (Spring) for roughly 3 months. Don’t y’all be running into summer all stressed out because you didn’t clean properly in the spring. Let these miserable folks go OR let them prove they have made a 180 and are a better person. The latter should be the exception, not the rule. We all have to stop giving people power in our life who truly don’t deserve to be in our presence….I said what I said…feel free to @ me and let me know your thoughts! But make sure you spring clean first…release that negative energy before heading my way.