The Changing of the Seasons

It’s time y’all! (I’m from Mississippi, so y’all is very much appropriate.) Time to start packing away ALL of the winter wonderland clothes and other “stuff” we all bring down and bring forth during the winter season. It’s time to breathe in the fresh air, do some spring cleaning, and enjoy the sunshine. But hold up! Back to spring cleaning….while we traditionally think of “spring cleaning” as house and yard work, as an adult, I’ve found that we need to “spring clean” some of these friendships and relationships. People have always said, some people are in your life only for a season. The older I get, the more this rings true. People change….or shall I say, a person’s real character reveals itself after a while. It’s ok to love someone from a distance. Protect your peace. This goes for both friendships and relationships. A lot of times, when you’re in doubt or scared about letting go, evaluate that person’s other relationships (those you are privy to see). More than likely, they have changed with others as well OR they are switching up their nucleus of friends CONSTANTLY once he or she is found out. Be very cautious of the “serial befriender” (yes, that word is made up.) These people are looking for the “next best thing”, not true, meaningful friendships. They are plotting on you and others. And it’s ok to toss them out while spring cleaning. Relationships are the same….be mindful of your space and your peace at all times. Keep positivity in your circle and the ability to walk away from toxic situations as one of your weapons of peace.  We’re here (Spring) for roughly 3 months. Don’t y’all be running into summer all stressed out because you didn’t clean properly in the spring. Let these miserable folks go OR let them prove they have made a 180 and are a better person. The latter should be the exception, not the rule. We all have to stop giving people power in our life who truly don’t deserve to be in our presence….I said what I said…feel free to @ me and let me know your thoughts! But make sure you spring clean first…release that negative energy before heading my way. 

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  2. This was all fact, but also be mindful of when one has acknowledged their character flaw. You may push that once lost friend or partner away when they are valiantly trying to correct the issue. But hey, nobody needs nobody so I still fill you have to do whatever ” protects your peace: Especially if that person no longer means what they once meant to you. Because you could find yourself inflicting the same form of energy, unconsciously, that that person besuttilled upon you. At this point , the said individual has to protect their peace as well. Nice blog sweetheart🥰🥰🥰 Keep them coming.

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    1. D Jaxn acknowledged or truly changed? 😐 Yeah, acknowledging doesn’t hold much weight. True change is the ultimate truth teller when it comes to friends or relationships that have been tainted by some form of dishonesty, lack of trust, betrayal, slander, etc. Acknowledging is nowhere near enough….CHANGE is the only answer.

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      1. I mentioned change and also putting forth effort to show change. What I am asking is should the relationship be dissolved if the intial perp isnt making amends as fast as the victim feels they should, at what point is the energy flipped and the victim becomes the aggressor, giving off the same energy that they once received. Should that person also be willing to dissolve the relationship when the efforts seem to be in vain in order to protect their peace. 2 negatives only make a positive when you are multiplying numbers.

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      2. Everyone has to do whatever gives them inner peace. I will say this, most people who say they have changed, have actually made very little progress because they are self assessing. Example: I’ve changed because I don’t lie anymore. Reality: I just hide my lies better and will justify any lies as memory loss and/or gaslight the other person by trying to make them think they didn’t hear or see what they saw. An abusive person in friendships or relationships can’t deem when their actions are acceptable to another person. Another red flag is when the aggressor suddenly wants to be a victim. This goes back to that person never wanting to take blame/accountability alone for the damage he/she has caused. It’s ALWAYS someone else doing something. This is a sign of a person who has not truly changed, but is mostly looking to shift blame as quickly as possible. In the today story of D Jaxn and his wife. Many are wanting to blame her. The one thing he said that made sense was this: you had every right to respond to me the way you did. Meaning: I can’t put any restrictions on you, your feelings, or your response to me for me treating you like an ass. Now, he may have been lying or selling a book, but the message was spot on. You can’t tell a person you hurt how and when to heal. And you also don’t up and proclaim I’m fixed when you haven’t done the mental work to do so (I.e. D Jaxn). A lifetime of brokenness is not fixed in 6 months….a year even….2 years. It’s not. So if someone is claiming to be fixed or healed when they spent their entire life in a broken state. Run…..and don’t look back. That person is essentially a fraud. And essentially looking for another victim whether consciously or subconsciously.

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  3. So, are you saying that an aggressor could never be considered a victim regardless of what type of behavior the victim displays to them ? You made your bed, now lie in it and take whatever I dish out to you; bc even though I am the aggressor, you could never be the victim. 🤔🤔🤔

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    1. Nope, not at all. What I am saying is that the aggressor can make no demands of his or her victim. And if that victim has nothing nice to say to their aggressor (most won’t), then the aggressor has to take whatever comes his or her way. An aggressor has no say so in how a victim responds to them. They do not. Quite frankly, if an aggressor wants that type of power, that person obviously is not healed. If a victim lashes out at an aggressor, I don’t think too many people would feel sorry for the aggressor. That’s why people should treat people how they want to be treated and then they would not have to worry about getting the backlash of their actions. Too many times people want to treat people bad and then dictate people’s response. Society is not setup that way. Aggressors and people who want to be trifling or low down to others, get no pity from me. I doubt if they get pity from most. They need healing. Not another person to excuse their behavior and make it “easy on them”.

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